7 Habits of Highly Successful Teens

7 Habits of Highly Successful Teens

(By Sean Covey but modified)

Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, and then to be Understood

Because most people don’t listen very well, one of the great frustrations in life is that many don’t feel understood. This habit will ensure your teen learns the most important communication skills there is: active listening.

Why is this habit they to communication? It’s because the deepest need of the human heart is to be understood. Everyone wants to be respected and valued for who they are—a unique, one-of-a-kind, never-to-be-cloned individual. People won’t expose their soft middles unless they feel genuine love and understanding. Once they feel it, however, they will tell you more than you may want to hear. People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.

Listen with your eyes, heart and ears. 7 percent of communication is contained in the words we use. The rest comes from body language (53 percent) and how we say words, or the tone and feeling reflected in our voice (40 percent).

Most people are eager to talk and had rather talk than listen. We have one mouth and two ears. This means we should listen twice as much as we talk. We actually learn more while listening rather than how much we talk. Learn to listen and listen to learn.

Listen, really listen, for understanding.

Seek first to understand then to be understood—LISTEN.

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7 Habits of Highly Successful Teens

7 Habits of Highly Successful Teens

(By Sean Covey but modified)

Habit 3: Put First Things First

Habit three is about Will and Will Not power. This habit helps teens prioritize and manage their time so that they focus on and complete the most important things in their lives. Putting first things first also means learning to overcome fears and being strong during difficult times. It’s living life according to what matters most. Putting first things first deals with things that are:

Important or not important, urgent or not urgent. Let’s look at the four quadrants of time management.

Quadrant 1: Things that are Important and Urgent

Quadrant 2: Things that are Important but not Urgent

Quadrant 3: Things that are Not Important but are Urgent

Quadrant 4: Things that are not Important and Not Urgent

1. Important & Urgent	2. Important but not Urgent
3. Not Important but are Urgent	4. Not Important and Not Urgent

Quadrant 2 is the ideal place to spend our time, doing things that are important but not urgent. Here’s where priorities come into play. The results for living Quadrant 2 are:

1. Control of your life

2. Balance

3. High Performance

So, in what quadrant are you spending most of your time? The key is to shift as much time as possible into Quadrant 2 and this is accomplished by planning. Spend more time planning and incorporating the most important things first, things that matter most. Keep your eyes on the prize and reach for it.

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7 Habits of Highly Successful Teens

7 Habits of Highly Successful Teens

(By Sean Covey but modified)

Habit 1: Be Proactive

Being proactive is the key to unlocking other habits. Help your teen take control and take responsibility for her life. Proactive people understand that they are responsible for their own happiness or unhappiness. They don’t blame others for their own actions or feelings. Proactive people realize that the ball is in their court, that they are the captain of their own ship; that they are in control, control of their decisions, thoughts, choices, decisions, goals, actions, and priorities. Proactive people are self-starters; they don’t wait to be told what to do, they press forward with enthusiasm toward the achievement of their assignment, their duties, their responsibilities, their obligations. Choosing to do what is right is a proactive decision. Obey the rules. Obey the law. Obey the coach. Obey the school policies. Obey your parents. Obey with exactness, and great things will come to you. Be proactive and take initiative.

 

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7 Habits of Highly Successful Teens

7 Habits of Highly Successful Teens

By Sean Covey

 

For teens, life is not a playground, it’s a jungle. And, being the parent of a teenager isn’t any walk in the park, either. In his book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens, author Sean Covey attempts to provide “a compass to help teens and their parents navigate the problems they encounter daily.”

How will they deal with peer pressure? Motivation? Success or lack thereof? The life of a teenager is full of tough issues and life-changing decisions. As a parents, you are responsible to help them learn the principles and ethics that will help them to reach their goals and live a successful life.

While it’s all well and good to tell kids how to live their lives, “teens watch what you do more than they listen to what you say,” Covey says. So practice what you preach. Your example can be very influential.

Covey himself has done well by following a parent’s example. His dad, Stephen Covey, wrote the book The 7 Habits of Highly Successful People, which sold over 15 million copies. Sean’s chips off the old block, and no slacker. His own book has rung in a more than respectable 2 million copies sold. Here are his seven habits, and some ideas for helping your teen understand and apply them:

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Student Reflection

Student Reflection

I think that teenagers that use alcohol or drugs went down the wrong path and they are going to stay there for their rest of their lives until they are willing to make a change. Their lives will be drastically changed and they will be crushed on the inside. Many teens who are doing drugs or alcohol should stop right away. They don’t know what they are doing to themselves and others and before they realize it, when they get older, they will become a bad influence and make the world a not better, but worsed place. To the people who have never used drugs or alcohol, stay there. NEVER USE THEM! Don’t even try to use them once, because once you use it and become addicted, then you won’t be able to stop. Drugs can lead you to death or to addiction or can put you in a hospital. The same goes to alcohol. So NEVER USE THEM and

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